Well now, if there’s one thing people are good at, it’s getting in their own way. Used to be, a man and a woman met, decided they liked each other well enough, and set about the business of building a life together. These days, though, folks are standing around waiting for perfect bank accounts, perfect bodies, and perfect moments—none of which ever come.
See, we’ve gotten mighty clever about surviving, but downright foolish about living. Instead of jumping in and figuring things out along the way, people treat love like a final exam—and they won’t even sign up for the course. But life, like a river, keeps on moving whether you row with it or sit there waiting for a sign from the heavens. And if you ain’t careful, you’ll drift so far downstream that by the time you realize it’s safe to swim, you’ll be too old to enjoy the water.
Now, I ain’t saying folks ought to rush headlong into romance like a dog chasing a butcher’s cart, but I am saying this—life don’t wait.
You can spend your years fussing over whether you’re ready, or you can jump in and start paddling. The truth is, most of the things we worry about never come to pass, and the things we actually need? We figure those out along the way.
So, if you’re sitting on the shore, waiting for the perfect moment, let me save you some time—it ain’t coming. Best to quit watching the water and start rowing.
Understanding the Crisis
Modern dating, marriage, and family formation are in decline, and Jeremy Nicholson, Ph.D., attributes this to Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. In previous generations, once basic needs (food, safety, financial stability) were met at a reasonable level, individuals naturally moved on to forming relationships. However, in today’s world, these needs have been inflated, leading people to believe they must reach unrealistic financial and personal milestones before they are “ready” for a relationship.
This hesitation is driven by fear of imperfection, social media comparisons, and evolving gender roles, all of which delay or discourage long-term commitment.
Adaptability: The Missing Key
The world changes fast—technology evolves, industries shift, and social norms fluctuate. Those who master adaptability not only keep up but stay ahead. This applies just as much to dating and relationships as it does to business and personal growth.
Why Adaptability Matters in Relationships
✔ Overcoming Perfectionism: No one is ever truly “ready.” Relationships should be seen as a foundation for growth, not a reward after success.
✔ Adjusting to Changing Social Norms: Traditional dating rules are fading. Being adaptable allows you to navigate new dynamics without frustration.
✔ Handling Relationship Challenges: Unexpected problems will arise—how you respond determines the strength of your connection.
How to Become More Adaptable in Dating and Relationships
🔹 Just-in-Time Learning: Don’t wait until you have the “perfect” career, home, or body—learn and grow within relationships.
🔹 Experiment & Iterate: Try new approaches to dating and commitment. If something isn’t working, adjust instead of giving up.
🔹 Stay Open to Feedback: Listen to your partner, reflect on past relationships, and refine your approach.
🔹 Test Without Announcing It: Apply small adaptability changes in real-life interactions without making a big deal out of them—observe how people respond.
The dating crisis isn’t just about fewer relationships—it’s about a lack of adaptability. People are stuck in outdated mindsets, waiting for an ideal moment that never comes. Mastering adaptability in relationships—just as in business and life—will set you apart and allow you to build meaningful connections without waiting for perfect conditions.
Start small, stay flexible, and keep evolving. 🚀
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