Alright class, today’s lesson is not about equations or history dates. It’s about relationships — the people you meet, the connections you make, and how they shape your life in ways you’ll never predict.
You’ve all heard those words: could have, would have, should have. They sneak in whenever we look back. “I could have been friends with him if I’d spoken up.” “I should have apologized before it was too late.” “I would have asked her out if I wasn’t so nervous.” They’re the language of missed chances.
But here’s the catch: you can’t always know in the moment how important someone will be to your story.
Example One: The “Unimportant” Friend
Maybe you meet someone who doesn’t seem like a big deal. Just another face in the crowd. But a year later, they’re the one who introduces you to a new job, or a new city, or the person you fall in love with. That “unimportant” person opened a door you didn’t even know existed.
I’ve seen it again and again. Life isn’t just about the people you already know. It’s about the people they know. Relationships are networks, like a spider web — tug one thread and the whole web moves.
Example Two: The Terrible Boss
And yes, even the bad ones count. Let’s say you have a terrible boss one day. The kind who micromanages, yells, or takes credit for your work. Miserable, right? But here’s the thing — you’ll learn patience, resilience, and maybe exactly the kind of boss you don’t want to become. Years later, you might thank that awful boss — not for the misery, but for the lesson.
Example Three: The Random Night Out
Or think about the friend who drags you somewhere you don’t want to go. “Come on, just one night out.” You roll your eyes, but you go. And there, in some noisy club or café, you meet someone who changes your life. Maybe it’s a mentor, maybe it’s a best friend, maybe it’s the person you marry. If you’d stayed home, it never would have happened.
This is why I say: you can learn from everyone. Even the negative ones, even the boring ones. Every relationship teaches something. Sometimes it teaches you joy. Sometimes it teaches you what to avoid. But it all adds to your education.
The Try Rule
Now, here’s the rule I want you to remember: how do you know you don’t like something — or someone — if you don’t try? You can’t judge every relationship from a distance. You have to step into it. Try the friendship. Go on the date. Work the job. Sure, sometimes it won’t work out. But without trying, you’ll never know.
So don’t live too much in the “could haves, would haves, should haves.” They’re natural, but they’re also useless if you let them rule you. Focus instead on the “what can I do today?” Shake a hand. Say hello. Give people a chance. Because you never know who’s going to change the course of your story.
And remember — life is a river. You don’t always see the bends ahead, but every person you meet is like a stone in the water, nudging your boat in a new direction. And that, class, is the adventure.
Closing Thought – the human mind is an amazing thing without bounds, if you let life happens it will conspire in your favor.
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” — The Alchemist = Paulo Coelho
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