Category: Marriage

What do Americans actually do in love, and how much of it do we just make up?

Most people talk about love like it’s a formula, but in America it’s usually a negotiation between hope, fear, loneliness, timing, and whoever answered the text back. –YNOT! There is no topic on earth that produces more confidence with less arithmetic than dating, courtship, and marriage. Everybody has a theory. The married think the singles are lost. The singles think the married are trapped. The divorced think both sides are under-qualified. The young think love is an app. The old think it used to be simpler, which is a charming lie told by every generation that survived its own … Continue readingWhat do Americans actually do in love, and how much of it do we just make up?

Are You Looking for a Wife—or Just Shopping for a Fantasy?

First marriage, 40 to 50% end in divorce. Flip a coin. Second marriage, 60 to 67% end in divorce. Two out of three fail. Third marriage, 70 to 73% end in divorce. Three out of four fail. The pattern is clear and undeniable. Each carries worse odds than the previous. Choose your fantasy carefully. –YNOT! When men shop for cars, they usually already have a dream in mind. The sports car. The truck. The sleek machine that promises to make life feel bigger, louder, better. Then six months later, reality shows up with a payment book and a repair … Continue readingAre You Looking for a Wife—or Just Shopping for a Fantasy?

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Why Modern Marriages Break Down…

Now, I ain’t no marriage counselor—and Lord knows I probably needed one on speed dial, mostly on account of me—but I’ve lived long enough to know this: if you try to do the impossible with too little, something’s bound to break sooner or later. That’s what we’ve done with modern marriage. We took a perfectly noble institution and loaded it down like a pack mule with every expectation known to man—love, money, sex, parenting, friendship, life planning, eternal youth, shared Netflix tastes, and for heaven’s sake, synchronized sleep schedules. Then we scratched our heads and acted surprised when people started … Continue reading👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Why Modern Marriages Break Down…

The Eternal Tug-of-War Between Men and Women

“The trouble isn’t that there isn’t good men and good women, The trouble is that they don’t quite understand what the other one wants.” Men and women have been waltzing around the same old problems since the first caveman grunted at his lady about where his mammoth bones had gone. The only difference today is that we’ve added social media, feminism, and a world of dating apps to complicate the dance. But at its core, a simple truth remains: men crave respect, and women crave love. Yet somewhere along the way, we forgot that. Women started acting like bosses, … Continue readingThe Eternal Tug-of-War Between Men and Women

The Truth About Intimacy in Marriage: When Passion Fades and Why It Happens

Marriage is a curious thing — it starts off with fireworks and parades, and somewhere along the way, it turns into a committee meeting about whose turn it is to take out the trash. Why is it that a man and woman who once couldn’t keep their hands off each other end up treating intimacy like a chore list. Marriage, in its ideal form, ought to be a long conversation interrupted by moments of laughter, a bit of mischief, and perhaps, if the weather’s right, a kiss or two. But too many couples let the weather turn foul and … Continue readingThe Truth About Intimacy in Marriage: When Passion Fades and Why It Happens

The Way it is Because it is the Way We Are: Infidelity, and the Truth We Don’t Want to Admit

You ever notice how folks treat marriage like it’s some kind of magic spell — sprinkle a little rice, slap on a ring, and suddenly two perfectly flawed human beings are supposed to turn into saints? That’s a fine bit of storytelling, right up there with gold at the end of the rainbow and politicians with honest smiles. Truth is, marriage ain’t so much a love story as it is a lifelong poker game where both players keep trying to figure out if they’re holding the winning hand or about to be played for a fool. And nowhere is … Continue readingThe Way it is Because it is the Way We Are: Infidelity, and the Truth We Don’t Want to Admit